To open or not to open, that is the question.

Look before you leap, and/or delete

Are you inundated with emails? I get at least 100 emails a day, many from my clients, past and present; those are to be responded to ASAP of course. And I receive newsletters and updates from many organizations I subscribe to. Much reading results to keep up with the latest research in all fields of interest to me. Like you I also get loads of unwanted email messages from organizations, individuals and companies trying to sell me something; most I have never even heard of. There are also myriad scammers out there posing under a familiar name to get me to open their emails. Many try to tempt me with what they think are enticing subject lines All too many are constant repetition of ones already received.

I also need to check my often overloaded spam folder all the time because important and expected messages somehow find their way there.

So many people tell me they hardly ever read their emails; interesting. It causes me to question the purpose of having an email address. Too many others tell me they didn’t get the requested email I sent to them, and that’s frustrating too.

It can be annoying, and sometimes a bit overwhelming trying to keep up with it all, and it’s time consuming for sure. However, occasionally I get something that is really useful or interesting. When I get one of those messages I often forward it to people I know who are interested in educating themselves about mind/brain psychology, parapsychology, science based health issues nutrition, and supplements. If I come across something relevant to a client’s, family or friend’s needs, I send it to them. I also receive as I’m sure you do, emails forwarded to me by people who want to share something they believe to be interesting, important or useful to me. Thank you all.

Sometimes even personal emails sent by clients, friends and family end up in my spam folder. UHG!  So I’d advise you to check your junk mail every day. You never know what you could be missing out on.

It’s also quite frustrating when I’m attempting to reach people via my own contacts list who have requested receiving emails from me to discover they have not opened my message or its gone to their spam folder never to be seen. I do after all only send out useful and important information to them and all. Its not often that I do an e blast anyway. I don’t’ want to be  a pest. So when you see an email that comes from khypno@aol.com and my name on the subject line, just know I have something important to share with you.

I am a well known hypnotherapist with a busy practice, I have spent the last 50 years helping people; I love what I do, it’s fulfilling and rewarding to facilitate positive changes, help people heal, and succeed in achieving  their goals. There is of course a business element to what I do. I create self help products  that are sold from my on line store, and I write and send out newsletters providing information that people need to know about. So emails are promotional in many cases: It is just one way I can announce sales or special events like worships etc. I’ve had all too many people tell me that had they known about the content of the email they received from me they would opened it; for they would have liked to participate in a workshop or taken advantage of a discount on a product. They were too quick to delete the message. The old saying “look before you leap” is good advice.

Advertising it is,  very often. This is after all a society where commercial enterprise is built in to the culture, and keeps the economy running for all who benefit from it.

My contacts list is, by the way largely made up of people have asked to receive my announcements and newsletters. If you don’t want to read what I have sent to you, simply delete; no need to call or email to complain, I never want to intrude where not invited or welcomed. .

Occasionally I am moved to promote another person’s web site, products or newsletters when I feel they have meaningful content for my readers and my contacts. Although I have never before sent out an email like I did recently in which I made an urgent plea for help to save a loved ones life.* That was unusual, as traditionally I have always been giving something away, including the value of my knowledge and experience, I’m most often announcing opportunities for personal insights, self improvement and fulfillment. Promoting a new product,  my latest blog, or,  as in a recent email announcing among other newsworthy things, the installment of my new web site www.kisselhypnosis.com, or a workshop , how else could I reach and inform you?   Keep in mind that  I always like to include something people can use right away, and there are almost always freebies that come along with all my special offers. If its something about a time sensitive subject I make that clear too. E blasts at times are one of the few inexpensive ways to get the word out and so why not employ the option? Wouldn’t you?

So its not always wise to delete a message without taking at least a quick look at its content first, you never know what you can learn; it might be worthy of your closer attention.

I understand that you, like me are also inundated with requests for donations, and we  give as much as we can afford to favorite charities. I also factor in that with the recent publicity about all the charity scammers out there, there is bound to be some skepticism as to the legitimacy of any requests for donations, whether it be via an email solicitation or a beggar on a street corner. Believe me, I share that concern, we do need to be careful not to fall prey to those who would exploit our generous hearts and spirits. However my name and sterling reputation are well known and ought to have at least signaled the legitimate source of request. And keep in mind that your email address has either been given to me because you want to be on my mailing list, or because you have sent me an email and its automatically put on my contacts list or you have subscribed via my web site.

The e blast  in which i asked for donations arose from a feeling of desperation building within me and my family about my son in laws situation. My son in law is a wonderful human being, a loving husband and father whose life is in danger; his liver disease is not related to alcohol, as so many wrongly assume; he is a deeply spiritual man with a heart of gold, with a life long history of giving of himself in many ways freely to others in need. Now that he needs the same generosity that he has shown to others, it’s naturally painfully difficult for him to be in a position to ask for help, especially from strangers. So I asked for him, via email. It was a request for donations via the NFT*  The response was profoundly disappointing, I am surprised and sad to say. I cannot help but wonder, did it go to your spam folder? Or did you decide not to donate even a few dollars?  I’ll never know.

Can you imagine how it feels to have to ask for charity, even though it’s to save yours or loved ones life? Can you imagine how you’d feel knowing that the few dollars you contributed helped save his life;  or can you imagine how you’d feel if those few dollars could have and didn’t

A some generous hearted people have prayed for Mizan and his family  and a few  have donated, and we are profoundly grateful. They have all received personalized “thank you” messages from Mizan, via email of course, and we do hope they opened those messages. I’m also using this communication to thank them personally and more publicly.

 Obviously  the objective is to  reach as many people as possible, especially when the message is crucial to someone’s survival. When you have no other means of  communicating e mails  are one of the few means of doing so.  In spite of my reluctance to plead, I need to inform you that Mizan is so far from being able to afford a new liver.  And as much as I would never want to annoy you, I must let you know that time is of the essence. So if you have delayed making your tax free donation,  keep in mind time is not on his side.

I think many people delete message unthinkingly, and that could be a mistake. Recently a client didn’t open an email I forwarded to her that I’d received from my daughter who is a wellness coach, offering a some help for my client’s health concerns  that I had asked her about.    I often turn to Eman and ask her on behalf of my clients what she would recommend. Instead of opening that email, which by the way I told her I’d be sending her, my client bought a product that wasn’t the  best for her needs.  A waste of time and money for her.

As for helping you cope with with massive onslaught of emails and requests for your attention, please read my blog How to Find Balance in a Topsy Turvey World. You can get to it via my web site www.kisselhypnosis.com. The important message in there is all about getting in touch with whose needs are greatest. You are important too, and a good read so many have told me.

When you read my blogs you will be getting for free the benefit of my nearly 40 years of clinical experience and more than fifty years of scientific research and investigation into the mind, the brain mind body relationship, among other things. As well as lots of insights about and for yourself, and ways to live better, cope better, do better and be well. Please feel free to ask me questions and comment. I always give all due attention to my readers.

Go ahead, share this message with those on your contacts list, because its not just another request for donations, its an invitation to check out my new on line store where you will find lots of very powerful self help products as well as vital information that can help you decide the best approach for making positive changes; there is the all important Q&A pages and how my While Mind Hypnotherapy differs from the common standardized hypnotherapy practices and gets results when everything else has failed. Yes, that’s advertising!

And a reminder, you can opt of off my contacts list to never to receive emails from me again. My web designer/manger uses a special service that handles that automatically when you hit the unsubscribe link. Though just be aware, you could be missing out on some really good free and useful information, and decide to do a good deed, too.

TTFN and all the best, from Elaine

*http://patients.transplants.org/mizanraheem

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